Is it the actual act of being cheated on or the lies one must tell to cover up the cheating that causes the crippling pain and heartbreak towards the person they supposedly love? As someone that has been cheated on and that has been the cheater the heartbreak is devastating and keeping up with the lies is exhausting. I can only speak for myself but it was never my intention to cheat, as I know the pain of being cheated on. However, as it was happening I was only thinking about myself and how this person made me feel compared to the person I was cheating on. His attraction towards me was torturing because knowing that he found me desirable completely consumed my mind. I did at first try to resist his sexual suggestions but that didn’t last for too long. Our time together was brief but embedded deeply into my mind. During those times, I came up with a lot of lies and excuses to cover up my deceit and it was often daunting.

I must step back for a moment as I speak about being cheated on. When you give someone a piece of your heart, you give it open-heartedly expecting the same in return but that wasn’t the case with the man that broke mine. It would be nice if I could say that I was young and foolish but that’s wasn’t the case either, I was being hopeful. I went into the relationship thinking that he was the one because there was just something about him that made me desperately want to be with him. Although he never spoke the words “I love you” there were many times I felt that he did by his actions or was that just a part of the game to make me think that he did and I surely played the fool. After a two year relationship, I found out that he was cheating on me for the past six months. As usual, it was good in the beginning and while I would do anything to please him, he was too busy pleasing his unbeknown to me, new girlfriend. It took me a long time to admit that it was time to let go because I was trying to hold onto someone that didn’t want to commit to being in a relationship or at least not with me. Now that I can see with clear eyes, our moments spent together were priceless in my eyes only.

Looking back at these relationships, I can surely see where I when wrong with both of them. Not seeing, at that moment that I was only someone to be conquered and because of my selfish and inconsiderate ways, I lost everything that meant something to me. You see it is more likely for a woman to stay than it is for a man and once he found out, without a second thought he was gone. When it comes to being cheating on, I foolishly blinded myself with all the signs that were right in front of my eyes, not because he was the one but because I wanted him to be.